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Wicca’s Wardrobe @ We ♥ RP December 2017

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For this round of We ❤ RP we have created the Naevis Boots. They are a 100% original creation and are made to fit Maitreya’s Lara as well was Slink’s Physique and Hourglass. Naevis is a sexy, laced up form-fitting thigh high boot that comes with a comprehensive HUD that gives you the option of 10 different colors and 2 metals.

That’s not all! We also have a X-Mas Special! We have reimagined our popular Thalia outfit in festive red and gold to liven up your holiday season. You can get this special deal for only L$50!!

Location: We ♥ RP December 2017

Wicca’s Wardrobe @ Peace on Earth 10 Hunt

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Happy Holidays! It’s that time of year again…Peace on Earth Hunt time! We have a festively sexy minidress called Rania that will certainly liven up your holiday activities. It’s perfect for any holiday grid activity. Rania fits Maitreya’s Lara, and Slink’s Physique and Hourglass. Come to the store and look for a lil globe of Earth hidden somewhere in the store.

We are store #66
Hunt Hint: Dare to be Kinky?

Location: Wicca’s Wardrobe

POE 10: https://peaceonearthsl.wordpress.com/hint-list/

Just a walk… with freezy toes and cold fingers ;)

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Now autumn really caught me in RL as well and so today I was in a totally autumn mood while sitting at my PC with freezy toes and fingers. So when I unpacked one of the newest releases from  [sys] for the Sad November event.

[sys] released a full outfit with the “SWEATER” outfit. The outfit contains a skirt and a huge oversized sweater dress. For todays post I just used the skirt together with the amazing “Y6 Jacket & SHirt” as well made by [sys] and released for the Seasons Story back in October 2017.

I loved the wintery touch that the colors and the style of the combination gave me and so I added more autumn/winter looking items to it. Certainly when it gets colder, you need som tights otherwise your legs will get freezy and turn into an ugly blue tone, what we do not wanna have 😉

The colored tights from Izzie’s had the perfect tone to match the red parts of the vest and with the cute “Varsity” sneakers from Miel, which i got at one of the last 50 Linden Fridays it just looked nearly perfect. While I was staring at my pixels, I remembered the “Boot Socks”, that I got longer ago at katat0nik. I was waiting so long for a chance to wear them as i loved them so much and they perfectly fitted on the sneakers and as well to the colors of the whole look!

The hair I found at the actual round of the Fantasy Gacha Carnival. Needless to say, they are a gacha and it might take a while until you get the ones you want, if you not wanna wait for the resellers to put them on Marketplace 😉 I loved the possibility of having different styles on a HUD where I could decide about bangs or no bangs and as well if I wanted both sides of the hair over my shoulders or just one side. For the bandana you as well have the choice of a uni colored one or an ornamented version.

With the sneakers and the socks the whole look became a sporty touch and made me want to add something on my hands. First I was thinking about some knitted gloves matching the bandana but then I remembered the cool “Fingerless Gloves” from L’Emporio, that I got from Marketplace not too long ago.

For the poses I again chose to go with HelaMiyo as I really loved the “Walk” poses and as well the “Ground Sit” pose set so  much. They perfectly went with my sporty look.

Details

Outfit & Accessories:

Top: [sys] – “Y6 Jacket & Skirt” (Maitreya)

Skirt: [sys] – “SWEATER Skirt” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Sad November 2017

Socks: kakat0nik – “Boots socks”

Gloves: L’Emporio – “Fingerless Gloves” (Maitreya)

Shoes: MIEL – “Varsity Kicks Natural” (Maitreya)

Hair & Makeup:

Hair: no.match – “No.Problem” (Gacha) – NEW @ Fantasy Gacha Carnival

Body & Tattoos:

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Facetattoo: Izzie’s – “Pores & Blemishes” (LeLutka Applier)

Poses & Props:

Poses: HelaMiyo – “Ground Sit” & “Walk”

Model & Photographer:

Wicca Merlin

Pose Studies with HelaMiyo

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HelaMiyo – “Ankles Action” Pose Set

Poses are something very personal and as well to me they are a very important part to my pictures and blogging. We all spend a lot of time to dress up our pixels to get a cool look for our posts. I need the same amount of time as well to find the poses I do want to use for certain outfits. A real cool outfit can be super boring and not exciting at all when you use the wrong poses in my opinion.

HelaMiyo – “Ankles Action” Pose Set

If you have a wonderful detailed outfit and you just do a standing pose with lots of background and ambience around you, all those pretty little details simply vanish. It took me a long time until I figured out a way for me to keep those details and as well have a cool picture. Poses are very often too underestimated. Sometimes poses that look crazy and weird on the first view, can become very interesting if you play with them, turn them around or just have a crop picture where you only can see certain parts. Maybe that requires more pictures to showcase an outfit properly but I do not mind that at all if I am satisfied with the picture itself.

HelaMiyo – “Ankles Action” Pose Set

For shoes for example you can do so much more than just have shoes and feet on the picture. Like with the pose I used on the picture above. The shoes are the definite focus in that picture, but I still have nearly my whole avatar shown and the outfit it self as well. The same pose from another angle can showcase something different. So one pose can be used more than once and maybe sometimes you cannot even tell that it was the same pose with a totally different angle on it (at least I could not :p)

HelaMiyo – “Ankles Action” Pose Set

Sometimes I get asked, why I am doing more than one picture for my blog posts and if one picture would not be enough. Maybe sometimes one would be enough but then, if you style your avatar with time and passion, would you not like to show all the details you styled to it – Maybe a back view or a closeup? For clothing I usually do not have more than 3 to 5 pictures, if I do not have a picture story or something like that. Then I try to have one full body shot, one head shot and maybe one with shoes, nails or a little detail that would be overseen in one of the 2 others. But if I play with poses, I do have more than that. Usually, one pose set has more tha one or 2 poses in it and how I could showcase a pose set with just one picture if I do not wanna stuff all poses into one picture?

HelyMiyo – “Ankles Action” Pose Set

If I want to do pose studies with more than one pose set, I have to have more pictures to really showcase the work a pose designer put in to it. To be honest it is as well fun to change poses and angles while you take pictures. I sometimes find angles and crops I never would have thought about, by just turning and rotating my pose stand *giggles*

For this post I had over 80 snapshots and in the end over 20 pictures from them, that I wanted to use. but since 20 pictures is a lot I forced myself to cut it down under 15 for one post and do some more on a second post, so I will not beat you down with too many pictures 😉

HelaMiyo – “Our Darkness” Pose Set

For todays post all poses are made by HelaMiyo.

HelaMiyo is not a new pose store. Miyoko Magic entered SL in 2008 and HelaMiyo was born back then as well. Miyoko always had very unique and impressive poses that not just were ‘simple standing’ poses. If you ask her you will find out that all of her poses have a linked story to her RL as she states on her website (http://helamiyo.blogspot.de/) . Maybe that explains as well why all of her poses are so unique 😉

HelaMiyo – “Our Darkness” Pose Set

I still remember one of my first pose sets from HelaMiyo from when I started modeling and was working for a store named Staged back in 2009. We were standing on a round platform and we got a puppet hanger to wear so it looked like hanging puppet/string dolls instead of just usual store models – I really loved that idea and I still have those hanger and poses 😉

That was the first time when I discovered HelaMiyo poses 🙂

HelaMiyo – “Our Darkness” Pose Set

The more I was happy that now, about 8 years later, I got to know the person behind th poses! I am usually too shy to talk to designers if I am just one of a million customers, because I always think they are so busy with creating and I do not want to bother them with me and my questions 😉

The more I was excited that Miyoko IMed me after one of my last posts, where I was talking about the difficulties to do pictures with gowns (https://wiccamerlin.de/i-am-a-pants-person-but-i-am-not-a-gown-enemy/).

She sent me 2 amazing pose sets for gowns (which I still have to post as well, as soon as I find a gown I do like) as she really proved me that there ARE gown poses who are not just boring and without any action 😉

HelaMiyo – “Rock” Pose Set

What I do like a lot with the HelaMiyo pose sets is, that you always get a mirrored version of each pose. So you can decide either what direction you want to look at and as well you can do amazing pictures with a mirror or even fake reflection. It is really fun to experiment with that kind of pictures if you have the possibility of a second, mirrored pose.

HelaMiyo – “Contemporary Jump” Pose Set

HelaMiyo – “Contemporary Jump” Pose Set

I really think, that poses are sometimes underestimated and we just use them for the purpose to have a pose for our amazing styles and we rarely see the work and effort that posemakers as well have to do, so that we can shine in our amazing outfits on our pictures and on the virtual fashion runways. Because of that, I like to do the “Pose Studies” posts here and there, where I can mainly focus on the poses and give them the attention and time they really earn.

HelaMiyo – “Contemporary Jump” Pose Set

As well that is a personal challenge as well as you have to find an outfit that cooperates with all the poses no matter what 😉 You have to find a look, where the poses come out clean and proper without breaks in the clothing or having your limbs inside your body. Sometimes that even asks for lightly shape changes to make your shape fit the poses as well. I did not have to change my shape for the HelaMiyo poses but the outfit was quite a challenge as I wanted to use some specific poses that have a lot of movement to them.

I hope you enjoyed my little pose journey as much as I did while iI was doing the pictures and  I am sure that will not be my last one as I have a few more amazing HelaMiyo poses left to showcase 😉

HelaMiyo – “Ground Sit” Pose Set

Details

Outfit & Accessories:

Body & Jacket: [sys] – “Samhain” (Maitreya)

Stockings: .:Avanti:. – “Ripped Nylons” (Maitreya Applier)

Shoes: N-Core – “Ballet” (Maitreya)

Eyepatch: .Shi – “Patch Mechanics 4.1”

Rings: MEVA – “Bento Maitreya Rings Silver” (Maitreya)

Collar: Pure Poison – ” ‘W’ Love Collar”

Hair & Makeup:

Hair: Vanity Hair – “Crown Royal-Greedy”

Makeup: Zibska – “Augusta” (LeLutka Applier)

Lipstick: Zibska – “Asya” (LeLutka Applier)

Body & Tatoo:

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Facetattoo: Izzie’s – “Pores & Blemishes” (LeLutka Applier)

Poses & Props:

Poses: HelaMiyo

Model & Photographer:

Wicca Merlin

HelaMiyo – “Ground Sit” Pose Set

 

Wicca’s Wardrobe @ 4Mesh November 2017

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For this round of 4Mesh we offer you Lyra. This original mesh creation is comprised of a ruffled skirt and a top designed for Maitreya’s Lara and Slink’s Hourglass & Physique. Lyra is both cute and sexy and comes with a color change HUD so you can find the perfect combination of colors. You can find Lyra in the Fantasy/Roleplay room of the event.

Taxi: http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Down%20Under/236/61/22

Wicca’s Wardrove @ ROMP November 2017

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We plan on dominating ROMP this round with our contribution! We offer you the 100% original mesh that is Silvana. This commanding ensemble includes the corset, panty, and boots…all which are made to fit Maitreya’s Lara, and Slink’s Hourglass & Physique mesh bodies. Not one to limit you, we of course have made it so the parts of Silvana can be worn independent of one another. As always, Silvana comes with a powerful HUD built to give you several colors to choose from, so are more than able to create your own unique look.

TAXI to ROMP: http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/River/113/46/22

Punk’s not Dead!

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Punk fashion is the clothing, hairstyles, cosmetics, jewellery, and body modifications of the punk subculture. Punk fashion varies widely, ranging from Vivienne Westwood designs to styles modeled on bands like The Exploited to the dressed-down look of North American hardcore. The distinct social dress of other subcultures and art movements, including glam rock, skinheads, rude boys, greasers, and mods have influenced punk fashion. Punk fashion has likewise influenced the styles of these groups, as well as those of popular culture. Many punks use clothing as a way of making a statement.

Punk fashion has been extremely commercialized at various times, and many well-established fashion designers – such as Anna Sui, Vivienne Westwood and Jean Paul Gaultier – have used punk elements in their production. Punk clothing, which was initially handmade, became mass-produced and sold in record stores and some smaller specialty clothing stores by the 1980s. Many fashion magazines and other glamour-oriented media have featured classic punk hairstyles and punk-influenced clothing.

There is a wide range of punk fashion, in terms of clothing (including deliberately offensive T-shirts, leather jackets, Doc Marten boots, etc.), hairstyles (including brightly colored hair, spiked hair, mohawks, etc.), cosmetics, tattoos, jewelery and body modification. Early punk fashion adapted everyday objects for aesthetic effect, such as T-shirts, leather jackets (which are often decorated with painted band logos, pins and buttons, and metal studs or spikes), and footwear such as Converse sneakers, skate shoes, brothel creepers, or Dr. Martens boots. Hardcore punk fans adopted a dressed-down style of T-shirts, jeans, combat boots or sneakers and crewcut-style haircuts. Women in the hardcore scene typically wore masculine clothing.

One part of punk was creating explicitly outward identities of sexuality. Everything that was normally supposed to be hidden was brought to the front, both literally and figuratively.

[Wikipedia]

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When Shena gave me my trend for the last issue of the VERSUS Magazine, my heart jumped – Punk!!!

(Read the full Magazine HERE)

Being a punk myself and expressing that during my youth with cool and ‘weird’ clothing and all kind of colorful hair and crazy cuts, that was right along my alley. Certainly SL gives you even some more freedom to be crazy but in general punk is a certain lifestyle and even if you become more calm with your looks when you get older, the attitude will never completely vanish I guess – at least it never did for me.

But what does punk mean for the most of the people? For many it might only be a fashion trend but for some it goes way deeper and becomes a life philosophy.

Punk or Punkrock was born in the mid 70s in the UK. From there it started to grow over the USA and Germany and finally was known worldwide. It was kinda an offspring of the Glamrock and the opposite to the quixotic Progressive Rock. Later, genres like New Wave, independent and Post-Punk developed from it.

In the 70s, big bands like the Rolling Stones, Led Zeppelin and Pink Floyd became unreachable and evicted from their audiences while the economy in the UK went more and more down. Many teenagers could not find work after school and there was no social care system to take care of them so they ended up on the streets. They developed hate against the system and the slogan “No Future” became their life motto.

They started to dress up shabby and their hair turned into colorful weird and funky art pieces as a provocation against the system and society and to shock their parents and grandparents.

Punk politics cover the entire political spectrum. Mostly they are concerned with individual freedom and anti-establishment views. They as well include anti-authoritarianism and non-conformity.

To break it down, Punk for the most people is some kind of revolution, provocation and rebellion against the mainstream or the actual situation and society they life in. They want to make a statement with their looks and get attention for their views, interests and desires.

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To me it was the music first, that brought me to the punk genre. When I was younger, round about 14, my older cousin heard all kind of punk rock music from the Sex Pistols, Ramones, The Clash, NOFX , Slime and some German ones. Influenced by that I started early changing my clothes towards my ‘idols’ and with 15 I was allowed to dye my hair. I remember very well my first red and blue streaks 😉 The more I did it the more my mom allowed me to ‘play’ with my hair and side – or under cuts were not far away :p

With growing up I started to understand the philosophy of punk and the more I did know the more I felt that is my genre. I never was a mainstream person and being called a freak or an ‘outsider’ because of my hair and looks, it was easy to turn more and more into being a punk and rebel. I really felt good to not look like anyone else and to provocate with my opinions and views about things. I never took anything as a given and questioned nearly everything what I was told. On one side it gave me a lot of knowledge about certain things but on the other side, it was hard to find friends especially in school. Outside of school it was never a problem, but the people in my class were all kids of doctors, lawyers and high society people. Probably that was the reason why I was getting in to the music scene very early and a long time I was the youngest. that had some advantages as well 😉 I finished my school and as well studied, to become a teacher myself but right after exams, I had the great opportunity to get a record label contract with one of my bands. I did not continue with becoming a teacher and decided to live a musicians life for over 20 years, before I went back to the roots and to teaching at a school 😉 I might have grown out of the uber shabby looks and the ultra colored hair, but there is a little punk, a sweet rebel still inside of me and that probably will never change. Maybe that’s why I enjoyed the styling for my VERSUS Magazine trends so much as they brought back good old times and memories 😉

Look 4

Details

Look 1:

Clothing & Accessories:

Dress: .:EC:. – “Norena” (Maitreya)

Jacket: Aleutia – “Nova” (Maitreya)

Tights: Nanika – “Alina” (Maitreya Applier)

Shoes: Ducknipple – “Docs vs1” (Maitreya)

Headphones: Wicca’s Wardrobe – “Miwa Headphones”

Glasses: ANE – “Tehe Sunglasses”

Hair & Makeup:

Hair: KoKoLoReS – “Val”

Lipstick: [LB Lips] – “Eve Set 3” (LeLutka Applier)

Body & Tattoos:

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Poses & Props:

Background Prop: anxiety – “%83”

Pose: Foxcity

Look 2:

Clothing & Accessories:

Coat: [sys] – “Carmen” ( Maitreya)

Top: Eclipse Design – “Belial” (Maitreya)

Skirt: GizzA – “Tartan Mini Skirt”

Tights: Nanika – “Alina” (Maitreya Applier)

Septum: [Since1975] – “Horn Septum”

Rings: MEVA – “Victorian Bento Rings” (Maitreya)

Piercings (Hand & Cleavage): MEVA – “Bento Hand Piercing 2” (Maitreya) & “Cleavage & Collarbone Piercing”

Nail Polish: DMZ – “Vinyl” (Maitreya Applier)

Hair & Makeup:

Hair: KoKoLoReS – “Leighton”

Makeup: Zibska – “Hecate” (LeLutka Applier)

Body & Tattoos:

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Tattoo: [White~Widow] – “Inferno” (Maitreya Applier)

Poses & Props:

Background Prop: -VIXX- – “Mesh backdrop Harder”

Pose: Foxcity

Look 3:

Clothing & Accessories:

Top & Jacket: GizzA – “Vixie Leather Jacket Set” (Maitreya)

Skirt: Paperbag – “Red Tartan Skater Skirt” (Size 3)

Shoes: L&B – “Gothic Platforms”

Tights: Nanika – “Alina” (Maitreya Applier)

Collar: Wicca’s Wardrobe – “Asema”

Rings: MEVA – “Bento Maitreya Rings Silver” (Maitreya)

Hair & Makeup:

Hair: RAW HOUSE – “Sice”

Makeup: Zibska – “Envy” (LeLutka Applier)

Body & Tattoos:

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Tattoo: [White~Widow] – “Vertigo” (Maitreya Applier)

Poses & Props:

Background Prop: anxiety – “%frostbite”

Pose: Foxity

Look 4:

Clothing & Accessories:

Coat: Asteria – “Anna” (Maitreya)

Top: Asteria – “Anna” (Maitreya)

Corset: Asteria – “Capretto” (Maitreya)

Skirt: [sys] – “Khan” (Maitreya)

Tights: Nanika – “Alina” (Maitreya Applier)

Shoes: **RE** – “Jassy Boots” (Maitreya)

Choker: [[RH]] – “Zipped”

Piercing – [CX] – “Drop Septum”

Hair & Makeup:

Hair: no.match – “No.More”

Makeup: alaskametro<3 – “Molten” (LeLutka Applier)

Body & Tattoos:

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Tattoo: [White +Widow] – “Spotlight”

Poses & Props:

Background Prop: anxiety – “%nightvision”

Pose: Wicca’s Wardrobe

Model, Stylist & Photographer on all 4:

Wicca Merlin

“Dark Swan” or “Do we ever have enough pumps?”

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Today I am very happy to showcase the amazing new “Cassie” pumps from [Gos]. Who can say no to such an amazing sexy, pointed toe pump with that kind of high blade heel? We all know women can never have enough heels so lets take a look on the newest release from [Gos] for November round of FaMESHed.

[Gos] always was one of my favourite designers in SL and for this month they have some really exciting changes and news. The HUDs have been updated and from now on you do not have any words in a menu, you get a HUD that has little colored squares and so you just have to click on those to customize your shoe to your style and favor.

Cassie – Boutique HUD (includes 18 current, in-season colours & 5 sole, 2 metal, and 2 lining options perfect for any fashionista)

With the new “Cassie” pumps you have 3 different HUDs available in your pack. The Boutique, the Blueberry and the Metallics HUD. The Blueberry HUD will be a new addition for future releases, so you can coordinate your amazing Blueberry clothing perfect with your incredible [Gos] shoes 🙂

Cassie – Blueberry HUD (includes 28 colours which coordinate with clothing from Blueberry plus 5 sole, 2 metal, and 2 lining options)

Each HUD has a different number of colors on it as well as options for the sole, metals and lining. I only snapped a few colors to still make the full beauty of the show visible but as you can see there is a wide color range and you won’t hardly find any color where you cannot find a match in your “Cassie” HUDs.

Cassie – Metallics HUD (includes 10 metallics & 5 sole, 2 metal, and 2 lining options which will have your feet shining)

The “Cassie” pumps are made for MaitreyaLara, Belleza and Slink high feet. And now the unbelievable… That full pack is available at FaMESHed for only 495 L$. That is a steal of a deal!

Now I would just take a closer look on the rest of my look for today. To not over accessorize the shoes I decided to go for some body tight clothing. the lingerie I got longer ago from Apple May.  I loved the high-waisted panties and the look of the completely covering bra. The “Tigress” set are 2 appliers, which can be used on Slink and omega compatible bodies. For the harness I found the cool “Black Bird” harness from PurpleMoon. It just perfectly went with my lingerie and I loved the little wings in the back. To pimp the bra a little bit I added the “Skeleton Clamps” from Salt & Pepper which are a hunt gift for the ‘Once upon a Nightmare’ hunt. They are meant to be worn without any bra but I loved the look so much on it 😉 The more I styled the more a dark swan grew in my head.

But I do not wanna bore with more text as I know you probably already trying to TP to FaMESHed to grab your “Cassie” pumps and I will put all the style details with LMs anyways below the last picture as always 😉

Details

Clothing & Accessories:

Lingerie: Apple May – “Tigress Hot Pants & Sliced Top” (Omega Applier)

Harness: PurpleMoon – “Black Bird” (Maitreya, part of the outfit)

Stockings: .:Avanti:. – “Harlot Stockings” (Omega Applier)

Shoes: [Gos] – “Cassie Pumps” (Maitreya) – NEW @ FaMESHed

Hand Jewelry: Drastic – “Tentacle Jewelry” (Maitreya)

Nails: Drastic – “Web Nails” (Maitreya)

Clambs: Salt & Pepper – “Skeleton Clamps” – NEW @ Once upon a Nightmare hunt

Choker: PurpleMoon – “Frozen”

Hair & Makeup:

Hair: KoKoLoReS – “Julie” (Gacha) – NEW @ Gacha Garden

Makeup: AiShA – “Be Dramatic” (Maitreya Applier)

Body & Tattoos:

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Freckles: Izzie’s – “Pores & Blemishes” (LeLutka Applier)

Poses & Props:

Chair: {RW} – “Roxie Swingin Spanking Chair”

Model & Photographer:

Wicca Merlin

Wicca’s Wardrobe @ The Gacha Garden November 2017

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Deanna is our contribution to this round of the Gacha Garden. Deanna is a versatile gacha that allows styles from sweet to sexy. You are going to want all the parts of this gacha, there are so many ways it can be worn! Deanna is made for Maitreya’s Lara only. All metal parts have a gold/silver option. Numbers 8 – 14 have a HUD for the slip of the garter pants. RARES come with full HUDs and all colors. (2 rares & 21 commons)

The Seed of Inspiration (SoI) is the corset and is only available during the event and never again! The SoI is given on top of each 20th pull of the machine during the event.

Deanna is unique in that it is the first one of its kind to have two outfits in one plus a compatible SoI that works with all the bottoms in the gacha.

The Gacha Garden Rules: http://www.thegachagarden.com/?page_id=797

Taxi to Gacha Garden: http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Gimme%20Gacha%20Productions/119/185/26

Bound by Prejudices

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“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity.”

[Dale Carnegie]

“Never judge others. You both know good and well how unexpected events can change who a person is. Always keep that in mind. You never know what someone else is experiencing within their own life.”

[Colleen Hoover]

How often you wondered why a certain person is not talking to you, even if you never ever had any conversation with that exact person before?

This post will be very personal out of my own experiences and opinions in my very own past and I will try my best, hoping I will make sense and will be understood right. I am not a native English Speaker so I hope that you will be lenient with me 😉

I am sure you know that situation, if you poke someone, to get some information and then you are being ignored for a long time without any answer. The after some time you dare to ask again, because the information would be really important for you and you could not find any other source of information and again you are ignored completely. you start to be scared and question yourself what you could have done to that person before, but you cannot even remember that you ever spoke to that person before. so you think your pokes might have got lost and you take all your strength and ask a 3rd time because you think your first two attempts failed, since you heard nothing back and all of a sudden you get yelled at O.O Not with the information you asked for – more like how you can dare to ask 3 times after you got ignored already before…

That did not happen too often thank god, but those kind of situations happen here and there again and again. Usually not that harsh but in the end it hurts the same if you just wanted some information and just get silence.

I mean if you could figure it out by yourself… fine then I would not even say a word but sometimes you have to ask for information of you cannot continue working on something.

The other side of the coin… How often you caught yourself avoiding several people just because you “heard” something about them?

I was thinking about that a lot lately. sometimes I just tried to avoid people because good friends of mine had real bad experiences with them and I felt I would betray them by talking to those people or even work with them. One part of my heart – out of loyalty – still believes in that, but seeing it from a business perspective the other part of my heart calls against it.

Maybe it is part of being a human that you try to protect your true friends by not making relation ships with people who hurt them but on a business perspective should you not be open minded and not biased by some things?

What about the phrase that everyone deserves a second chance? Is it not possible to be with people not mentioning or talking about a certain person?

It is a tricky subject I guess and maybe the intensity of what has happened and as well the particular story and facts might have a great influence on that.

It would make a difference if someone was ‘just’ rejected for something or somebody, or if he or she really was personally hurt. That maybe leads to the next problem, that some people take things personal quite fast… and who would be the judge to decide if it was real bad or just a misunderstanding? I guess I did wrong decisions in that case as well but I always try to be as neutral as I can especially if it comes to business stuff. Saying that, if I maneuver myself in such situations without aiming for that (and I am good in that for what ever reason) I try to be transparent and honest with that, so every party knows very well about my role and intention.

All my life I tried to not hurt people in any ways and still it happens sometimes without me knowing it. If that happens I never did want it like that, but it happened. So I have to – if I get the chance to do so – explain why it happened and maybe apologize if that is still possible, as I probably cannot make it undone (I would if I could, ,that’s a given). I had to learn the hard way that if you have an own opinion you might hurt people with it even if you do not want to. Just because sometimes things hurt people, even if you not ever thought about.

My grandfather used to say “You are the only one that decides what can/will hurt you and what won’t”

It took a long time, until I fully understood what that means and even now, I know it does not always work. But I as well learned being open minded for new acquaintances and situations even if people tried to warn me.

Even if I sometimes wish – after having my own experiences – I would have listened, I as well got to know people different, than what I was told. I was allowed to see different and amazing sides of people who I was told to never talk to. Sometimes you need to take a risk, maybe to get your own experiences and your own point of view about people. I just can say for my own personal opinion, I probably would take the risk of being hurt again, over the fact of just being biased or ignoring/blocking people just because I was told to. Even if it is the minority in such cases, I was allowed to meet wonderful people by just ignoring warnings and having my own experiences and I would not want to miss them in my life 😉 . Humans are different. Some do go along and some do not but without having my own experience I at least try (it does not work always 100%) to be open for my own experiences even if I might get hurt again, just because the only thing I dare to judge is myself (if that makes any sense… I hope it does).

Sometimes it is worth it to just slough off the ropes and bands that tie you down, to get up after you maybe got hurt and get rid of the bad feelings, that your experiences might have caused. The possibility that you can have a different experience with a different person is there, it just has to be made.

I try to tell that to myself everyday and most of the time it works. How we all could have learned to walk when we were young, if we would not have stood up all the time after we fell and had bruises and open knees? I am ready to get up again and to take off the blindfold and the bonds of my old experiences to make new ones, better ones and some that I never will forget. I won’t be infallible – I am human being – but I will try – every day again 🙂

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Outfit & Accessories:

Top: Wicca’s Wardrobe – “Vixen Bra 1 & 2” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Harness: [Cynful] – “Shamless Top & Bottom” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Pantie: Enfant Terrible – “Locked Heart Chastity Belt” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Gloves: .:Avanti:. – “Domina Gloves” (Maitreya Applier)

Knee Bracers: .:Avanti:. – “Jersey Knee Warmers” (Maitreya Applier)

Shoes: [MODA] – “Dakota Heels” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Gag: ::Axix:: – “Beloved Nocturnia Gag” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Hair & Makeup:

Hair & Blindfold: +Spellbound+ – “Babygirl” – NEW @ Bound Box

Body & Tattoos:

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Poses & Props:

Sari-Sari – “Puppet Skybox”

Model & Phototgrapher:

Wicca Merlin