Bound by Prejudices

โ€œWhen dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity.โ€

[Dale Carnegie]

โ€œNever judge others. You both know good and well how unexpected events can change who a person is. Always keep that in mind. You never know what someone else is experiencing within their own life.โ€

[Colleen Hoover]

How often you wondered why a certain person is not talking to you, even if you never ever had any conversation with that exact person before?

This post will be very personal out of my own experiences and opinions in my very own past and I will try my best, hoping I will make sense and will be understood right. I am not a native English Speaker so I hope that you will be lenient with me ๐Ÿ˜‰

I am sure you know that situation, if you poke someone, to get some information and then you are being ignored for a long time without any answer. The after some time you dare to ask again, because the information would be really important for you and you could not find any other source of information and again you are ignored completely. you start to be scared and question yourself what you could have done to that person before, but you cannot even remember that you ever spoke to that person before. so you think your pokes might have got lost and you take all your strength and ask a 3rd time because you think your first two attempts failed, since you heard nothing back and all of a sudden you get yelled at O.O Not with the information you asked for – more like how you can dare to ask 3 times after you got ignored already before…

That did not happen too often thank god, but those kind of situations happen here and there again and again. Usually not that harsh but in the end it hurts the same if you just wanted some information and just get silence.

I mean if you could figure it out by yourself… fine then I would not even say a word but sometimes you have to ask for information of you cannot continue working on something.

The other side of the coin… How often you caught yourself avoiding several people just because you “heard” something about them?

I was thinking about that a lot lately. sometimes I just tried to avoid people because good friends of mine had real bad experiences with them and I felt I would betray them by talking to those people or even work with them. One part of my heart – out of loyalty – still believes in that, but seeing it from a business perspective the other part of my heart calls against it.

Maybe it is part of being a human that you try to protect your true friends by not making relation ships with people who hurt them but on a business perspective should you not be open minded and not biased by some things?

What about the phrase that everyone deserves a second chance? Is it not possible to be with people not mentioning or talking about a certain person?

It is a tricky subject I guess and maybe the intensity of what has happened and as well the particular story and facts might have a great influence on that.

It would make a difference if someone was ‘just’ rejected for something or somebody, or if he or she really was personally hurt. That maybe leads to the next problem, that some people take things personal quite fast… and who would be the judge to decide if it was real bad or just a misunderstanding? I guess I did wrong decisions in that case as well but I always try to be as neutral as I can especially if it comes to business stuff. Saying that, if I maneuver myself in such situations without aiming for that (and I am good in that for what ever reason) I try to be transparent and honest with that, so every party knows very well about my role and intention.

All my life I tried to not hurt people in any ways and still it happens sometimes without me knowing it. If that happens I never did want it like that, but it happened. So I have to – if I get the chance to do so – explain why it happened and maybe apologize if that is still possible, as I probably cannot make it undone (I would if I could, ,that’s a given). I had to learn the hard way that if you have an own opinion you might hurt people with it even if you do not want to. Just because sometimes things hurt people, even if you not ever thought about.

My grandfather used to say “You are the only one that decides what can/will hurt you and what won’t”

It took a long time, until I fully understood what that means and even now, I know it does not always work. But I as well learned being open minded for new acquaintances and situations even if people tried to warn me.

Even if I sometimes wish – after having my own experiences – I would have listened, I as well got to know people different, than what I was told. I was allowed to see different and amazing sides of people who I was told to never talk to. Sometimes you need to take a risk, maybe to get your own experiences and your own point of view about people. I just can say for my own personal opinion, I probably would take the risk of being hurt again, over the fact of just being biased or ignoring/blocking people just because I was told to. Even if it is the minority in such cases, I was allowed to meet wonderful people by just ignoring warnings and having my own experiences and I would not want to miss them in my life ๐Ÿ˜‰ . Humans are different. Some do go along and some do not but without having my own experience I at least try (it does not work always 100%) to be open for my own experiences even if I might get hurt again, just because the only thing I dare to judge is myself (if that makes any sense… I hope it does).

Sometimes it is worth it to just slough off the ropes and bands that tie you down, to get up after you maybe got hurt and get rid of the bad feelings, that your experiences might have caused. The possibility that you can have a different experience with a different person is there, it just has to be made.

I try to tell that to myself everyday and most of the time it works. How we all could have learned to walk when we were young, if we would not have stood up all the time after we fell and had bruises and open knees? I am ready to get up again and to take off the blindfold and the bonds of my old experiences to make new ones, better ones and some that I never will forget. I won’t be infallible – I am human being – but I will try – every day again ๐Ÿ™‚

Details

Outfit & Accessories:

Top: Wicca’s Wardrobe – “Vixen Bra 1 & 2” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Harness: [Cynful] – “Shamless Top & Bottom” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Pantie: Enfant Terrible – “Locked Heart Chastity Belt” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Gloves: .:Avanti:. – “Domina Gloves” (Maitreya Applier)

Knee Bracers: .:Avanti:. – “Jersey Knee Warmers” (Maitreya Applier)

Shoes: [MODA] – “Dakota Heels” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Gag: ::Axix:: – “Beloved Nocturnia Gag” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Hair & Makeup:

Hair & Blindfold: +Spellbound+ – “Babygirl” – NEW @ Bound Box

Body & Tattoos:

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Poses & Props:

Sari-Sari – “Puppet Skybox”

Model & Phototgrapher:

Wicca Merlin

 

I am a pants person but I am not a gown enemy!

Gowns – Usually something outside of my comfort zone!

Normally I am used to say, I am not that much of a gown person. Somehow that is true, but not because I do not like gowns! It is more the fact, that in SL you cannot do as much with gowns as you can do with mix and match outfits or pants outfits – styling wise and picture wise.

With a gown your poses are automatically very limited to something, that does not spread or move your legs too much. Sitting mostly does not work without damage on lower part of the mesh gown and in the past with flexies it was even worse, when all the prims were hanging through your body. So what is left… mainly standing poses if you do not just go for closeups or crops. To me that can become boring very fast as you have a lot of ambience in your picture or you just stand there in an amazing environment and look like as someone forgot to pick you up :p

The next limitation you have is the styling itself. Certainly you can play with several accessories, jewelry, shoes and hair but the gown itself you rarely can transition to something different that just the gown and not many gowns to allow you a style category change. Gowns usually are meant to be formal or maybe even goth but still somehow elegant. I do like twisting style categories and changing purposes of certain clothing and as well I am addicted to mix and match to create a new look for me, that does not look like the one I saw on the vendor.

Not because I have to be always different and unique, just because I want to get a connection to the clothing I am wearing, to make them my own.

Everyone has an idea about the character and avatar that they play. Some do like the beauty side, some like the more ordinary looks, or even do like the imperfection and some are just looking at things and get a vision for them together with their avatar. I never did limit myself to a certain category, I just went with the flow for every outfit I was given with free styling reigns. I am not siting here and have to force myself to get a different or certain look, mostly it just happens step by step with every item I add to it. Sometimes beautiful, sometimes dark, sometimes weird and sometimes just simple casual.

When I saw the amazing “Samal” gown from E-Clipse Design, I immediately had a vision for it. I saw a black gown, some funky accessories and color! Maybe even something color popping like I do remember it from the 80s ;). I first played with red and black, but for what ever reason it had to be a more striking color, something that does scream color at you – if that makes sense. I was trying some neon green and yellow before I stumbled over a teal shading. The “Tista” lipstick from Zibska did a lot to my color decision as well. I loved the two-toned stong colors so much and it was a headache to find accessories in the same tone. So I ended up to re-color our bento gloves from the “Joan” outfit, the “Oakes” hair from KoKoLoReS and my LeLutka hair base (thank god we have the tinting option!) to match the color of the lipstick.

The gown is a firework of texture/fabric combinations. You have a more cotton looking fabric for the straps, the amazing detailed lace for the waist part and then you get a satin impression for the bottom of the gown.

Maybe some will question the term ‘gown’ for this outfitย now – I don’t.

It can be worn very elegant as well and if you are brave enough, you can wear it on a red carpet or to a dance event as well – Lady Gaga showed what can be called gowns and used like it ๐Ÿ˜‰

It is always in the eye of the beholder how you define certain things but with the tight body part and the wider floating bottom it is a perfect gown to me ๐Ÿ˜‰

The “Samal” gown and as well the awesome “Old Phone” glasses that I used for todays look, can be found on the ongoing Black Fair 2017 until the 20th or October. If you read this post afterwards I am sure you will find the designs in the main stores of the creators ๐Ÿ˜‰

So after all I am not a gown enemy, I just need the right gown and the right mood to get a vision for style and pictures ๐Ÿ˜‰

Details

Outfit & Accessories:

Gown: E-Clipse Design – “Samal” (Maitreya) – NEW @ The Black Fair 2017

Gloves: Wicca’s Wardrobe – “Joan” (Maitreya, Bento, part of the Joan outfit) – NEW @ The Black Fair 2017

Glasses: [Since1975] – “Old Phone Glasses” – NEW @ The Black Fair 2017

Necklace: Minimal – “Chelo”

Hair & Makeup:

Hair: KoKoLoReS – “Oakes”

Lipstick: Zibska – “Tista” (LeLutka Applier)

Body & Tattoo:

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Poses & Props:

Poses: Foxcity

Model & Photographer:

Wicca Merlin

 

Wicca’s Wardrobe @ The Black Fair 2017

It’s time for The Black Fair and as you would guess, EVERYTHING IS BLACK! We have a super sexy, super latex 100% original mesh creation we call Joan. It is made up of a alluring crop top, and curve hugging pencil skirt. We are offering Joan in in black of course, but with two variations of red included, and we also have our fatpack which of course has an impressive texture changing HUD so that you can have Joan in any color combination you like! Joan is made for Maitreya’s Lara, and Slink’s Physique and Hourglass.

But wait! THERE’S MORE! Our Joan gloves are BENTO! A definite must have!

Taxi: The Black Fair 2017

Wicca’s Wardrobe @ 4Mesh September/October 2017

Mesh Body Addicts has evolved! It is now known as 4Mesh. Why 4Mesh? Well that is because there are now 4 themed rooms for you to explore. Those themes are: fashion, roleplay, bento, and skin & body.

Now that you know what 4Mesh is, let’s talk about Aenice. This original mesh creation is designed for Maitreya Lara, Slink Physique & Hourglass. It comes in two versions, long and short.

We also have coordinating boots. (All are sold separately.) No matter which version you wear, you are going to attract attention. Aenice is sexy no matter what. Our attention to detail and amazing texture changing HUD gives you all kinds of options in creating your unique look.

For the 4Mesh event ONLY we will offer a fatpack with a huge discount. There will be no fatpack like this for those 3 items after the event at all. Don’t miss it!

Taxi: 4Mesh

Wicca’s Wardrobe @ The Guardians – October 2017

This round of The Guardians we have our first ever mesh lingerie! And of course it is 100% original! Evelyn is made up of 5 rares and 25 commons… the RARE items are: the bra, panty, garter belt, corset, and stockings, that comes with a texture changing HUD for all the variety you could want. The commons are single colored bras, panties, garter belts, corsets and stockings that come with a small HUD to change the texture of the metals.

And only for the event we have the Gift of the Guardians, our Evelyn Heels with color changing HUD.

A perfect compliment to the entire set.

GOTG = Gift of the Guardians (On top of each 15th pull, only available during the event itself)

Evelyn is designed to fit only Maitreya’s Lara.

The Guardians Rules and Info: http://thegachaguardians.com/how-to-play/

Taxi to the event: The Guardians

Wicca’s Wardrobe is part of the next Bound Box!

Wicca’s Wardrobe is excited to announce we will be a part of BOUND, a subscription box for the kinky side of your Second Life.

Never heard of the BOUND box? It is a quarterly subscription box featuring 12 designers creating exclusive items geared towards the BDSM/Kinky community. (At this time it is only for the ladies.)

All you need to do to sign up is visit the store and click the BOUND kiosk (trust me, you can’t miss it). Reserve your box starting by the 12th of September for L$1500. It will be delivered to you by October 12th.

 

(If you miss the Bound Box pre-order, you may purchase the HUD directly for 24 hours after initial release for 2000L at Bound Box Headquarters, after which there will be a one month hiatus in order to preserve exclusivity. After the one month hiatus, the HUD will be available for purchase for 3500L at Bound Box Headquarters. After 6 months from initial release it will be retired permanently.)

For more information about BOUND, visit https://palegirlproductions.wordpress.com/subscription-box-bound/about/

Location: Wicca’s Wardrobe

Wicca’s Wardrobe @ On9

For this round of On9 we have our Darcy Heels, which are made for Maitreya, Belleza and Slink. They are available as a fatpack as well as in single colors. The black version is available for 20% off at the event. The Darcy Heel is definitely a statement piece and a great addition to any look.

TAXI: On9

Wicca’s Wardrobe @ Weโ™ฅRP September 2017

 

We <3 RP has gone cyber! We are proud to present Taera, complete with boots for Maitreya and Slink (Hourglass and Physique). The outfit and boots can be worn separately, but they are sold together. Taera has a massive HUD with THREE sides! Yes, THREE sides! And that isn’t all. We all love materials right? Items look so vivid when materials are enabled. With our special three-sided HUD we have included a special materials feature. Not only do you have the option of using materials, you can COLOR the materials effect, giving your Taera a cool shine in certain windlights.

We have also created the Trooper Helmet. It is unisex and has all the same amazing features as Taera, so it makes a perfect compliment.

To go one cyber-step further, we have updated our Tracer Hair and bring you Tracer Hair 2.0! We updated it to include materials and perfectly match Taera as well.

All 3 creations are 25% off for Weโ™ฅRP @ the event location ONLY!

TAXI: Weโ™ฅRP September 2017

Blinded by the Light

First there was a short, glaring light and then a long following darkness…

Today I again will showcase some of the amazing designs of the Thereafter event, but this time in a slightly different way. I really do love the post apocalyptic scenarios with all the trash and chaos, the dirt and the abandoned cities. But this time when I put on the cool wrap from Bauhaus and added the amazing “Andromeda” makeup made by Slackgirl, I had a totally different vision.

If you saw a short harsh light followed by a huge explosion and then all around you became dark and silent… and then you figure it is not night, you do not see any contours, outlines of shadows as you used to at night?

With that vision I went on styling and put in the amazing top from Vinyl, as well an exclusive for Thereafter and the collar from Noir. The first vision of my idea for today slowly fell together.

The more I played with it, the more the vision again changed and since I have some fantasy moments as well, those influences added up to my original first vision. Probably it did not help that I was watching ‘The Chronicles of Riddick’ while I was editing my pictures :p

 

The evil Necromonger and the white lady that helped Riddick kinda inspired me to the idea of a magician walker, that roam around through the nights of a post apocalyptic environment. And who can say that a nuclear apocalypse with all the energy that gets set free does not change a human being and the skills and abilities ๐Ÿ˜‰

Certainly the kick ass “Wasteland Reaper” from CerberusXing could not miss for that kind of style ๐Ÿ˜‰ I always admired the work of [CX]. The ideas, the amazing details and the love of realistic creations of metals, chains, spikes and leather always fascinated me.

I did not want to use a busy background, as it felt wrong for my kind of idea and so I just played around with windlights until I found that amazing blue/green sky with a light blue-ish moonlight falling down on my body. After fiddling a bit with it and tweak it hee and there, it really got the feelings that I had for this pictures. Sometimes I really do love simple surroundings as they can look so very dramatic and thrilling even if you just use lights and shadows.

That was not the first time that the original idea turned while I put my style together, but to be honest I enjoy those moments when your vision turns around and it goes in a different direction as you planned on it.

Since we have 5 more days (only ๐Ÿ™ )for the Thereafter event, that probably is not my last post apocalyptic post, but I hope you enjoy it as much as I do ๐Ÿ˜‰

Details

Clothing & Accessories:

Top: Vinyl – “Twenty Turtleneck” & “Matchbox Bustier” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Thereafter

Pants: Wicca’s Wardrobe – “Omira Pants RARE” (Gacha, Maitreya) – NEW @ Fantasy Gacha Carnival

Headwrap: Bauhaus Movement – “Cypriss’s Apoc Part.II / Fem Wrap” – NEW @ Thereafter

Collar: Noir – “Furiosa Choker” – NEW @ Thereafter

Weapon: [CX] – Wasteland Reaper” – NEW @ Thereafter

Makeup & Hair:

Hair: EMO-tions – “Miranda”

Makeup: Slackgirl – “Andromeda” (Omega Applier) – NEW @ Thereafter

Body:

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Tattoo: Letis Tattoo – “Rigel Princess” (Omega Applier)

Eyes: Arise – “Blind Eyes”

Poses: Drunk Panda – “No Option Left”, “Proove them Wrong” (fingers of the left hand edited for the light ball) & “Stronger than Before” – NEW @ Thereafter

Model & Photographer: Wicca Merlin

Together – Even if the World fell apart

I am so caught by the Thereafter event and it’s creations and exclusives I could do nothing else that just snapping pictures all day long in post apocalyptic outfits on the Thereafter sim :p

Today is very special to me because Red usually never agrees or even asks me to do pictures with him. He usually rarely changes clothes, but with the “Survival Mask & Helmet” from ~isil~ he could not resist ๐Ÿ˜‰

So while he was styling his helmet, I was thinking what I could do since I had blogged the mask already a few days ago, BUT without the helmet!

This time I want to show the helmet AND the mask ๐Ÿ˜‰ Even if you could wear the helmet only as well, but I just loved the look of the combination of both so much – together with Red it looked like we were hunting or exploring ๐Ÿ˜‰

Red as well has a weapon addiction and the theme and looks allowed weapons as well – great fortune for cool pictures together with him. The weapons we use are mainly rom Breach, only for some poses I used the pose props pistols from Gingerfish, which I will showcase on a nother post soon, just because they were modifiable and fitted better into my little hands*snickers*

When I was looking for poses – couple poses I am not that familiar with as I rarely use them, especially those kind of poses – and I discovered that I have so many older ones I never used from various events. As you know I am not a huge fan of simple standing poses anymore for pictures, as I really do love movement and action shown in pics, so I wanted to find some that are in that direction too. When I found a few that I liked, we went again on the Thereafter sim for pictures – I so do enjoy that sim and I am already sad that the event will be over at the 27th and the sim will be gone ๐Ÿ™

I made so many pictures… it really was hard to decide which ones to use for the post – not to mention how much fun I had doing pics with Red, since that happens so rarely ๐Ÿ˜‰

I just can warmly commend the Thereafter sim and the event to you. It is an amazing experience and around the stores of the amazing designer – which made wonderful items according to the theme and the event – you can find so many cool corners and spots for pictures or just hang out and chat and enjoy the environment until the 27th of August.

Details Wicca

Outfit: Wicca’s Wardrobe – “Haley” – (Maitreya) NEW @ Thereafter

Boots: Wicca’s Wardrobe – “Naesala Boots” (Maitreya)

Headpiece: ~isil~ – “Survival Mask & Helmet” – NEW @ Thereafter

Backpack: C L A Vv. – “Survival Bag” –ย NEW @ Thereafter

Necklace: Moon Elixir – “Rope Necklace”

Makeup: Zibska – “Noir Pack 06” (LeLutka Applier)

Details Redclaw

Outfit: Wicca’s Wardrobe – “Nestor Outfit”

Headpiece: ~isil~ – “Survival Mask & Helmet” – NEW @ Thereafter

Boots: Livalle – “Hax Combat Boots”

Models: Redclaw Inshan & Wicca Merlin

Photographer: Wicca Merlin

Location: Thereafter