Bound by Prejudices

โ€œWhen dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity.โ€

[Dale Carnegie]

โ€œNever judge others. You both know good and well how unexpected events can change who a person is. Always keep that in mind. You never know what someone else is experiencing within their own life.โ€

[Colleen Hoover]

How often you wondered why a certain person is not talking to you, even if you never ever had any conversation with that exact person before?

This post will be very personal out of my own experiences and opinions in my very own past and I will try my best, hoping I will make sense and will be understood right. I am not a native English Speaker so I hope that you will be lenient with me ๐Ÿ˜‰

I am sure you know that situation, if you poke someone, to get some information and then you are being ignored for a long time without any answer. The after some time you dare to ask again, because the information would be really important for you and you could not find any other source of information and again you are ignored completely. you start to be scared and question yourself what you could have done to that person before, but you cannot even remember that you ever spoke to that person before. so you think your pokes might have got lost and you take all your strength and ask a 3rd time because you think your first two attempts failed, since you heard nothing back and all of a sudden you get yelled at O.O Not with the information you asked for – more like how you can dare to ask 3 times after you got ignored already before…

That did not happen too often thank god, but those kind of situations happen here and there again and again. Usually not that harsh but in the end it hurts the same if you just wanted some information and just get silence.

I mean if you could figure it out by yourself… fine then I would not even say a word but sometimes you have to ask for information of you cannot continue working on something.

The other side of the coin… How often you caught yourself avoiding several people just because you “heard” something about them?

I was thinking about that a lot lately. sometimes I just tried to avoid people because good friends of mine had real bad experiences with them and I felt I would betray them by talking to those people or even work with them. One part of my heart – out of loyalty – still believes in that, but seeing it from a business perspective the other part of my heart calls against it.

Maybe it is part of being a human that you try to protect your true friends by not making relation ships with people who hurt them but on a business perspective should you not be open minded and not biased by some things?

What about the phrase that everyone deserves a second chance? Is it not possible to be with people not mentioning or talking about a certain person?

It is a tricky subject I guess and maybe the intensity of what has happened and as well the particular story and facts might have a great influence on that.

It would make a difference if someone was ‘just’ rejected for something or somebody, or if he or she really was personally hurt. That maybe leads to the next problem, that some people take things personal quite fast… and who would be the judge to decide if it was real bad or just a misunderstanding? I guess I did wrong decisions in that case as well but I always try to be as neutral as I can especially if it comes to business stuff. Saying that, if I maneuver myself in such situations without aiming for that (and I am good in that for what ever reason) I try to be transparent and honest with that, so every party knows very well about my role and intention.

All my life I tried to not hurt people in any ways and still it happens sometimes without me knowing it. If that happens I never did want it like that, but it happened. So I have to – if I get the chance to do so – explain why it happened and maybe apologize if that is still possible, as I probably cannot make it undone (I would if I could, ,that’s a given). I had to learn the hard way that if you have an own opinion you might hurt people with it even if you do not want to. Just because sometimes things hurt people, even if you not ever thought about.

My grandfather used to say “You are the only one that decides what can/will hurt you and what won’t”

It took a long time, until I fully understood what that means and even now, I know it does not always work. But I as well learned being open minded for new acquaintances and situations even if people tried to warn me.

Even if I sometimes wish – after having my own experiences – I would have listened, I as well got to know people different, than what I was told. I was allowed to see different and amazing sides of people who I was told to never talk to. Sometimes you need to take a risk, maybe to get your own experiences and your own point of view about people. I just can say for my own personal opinion, I probably would take the risk of being hurt again, over the fact of just being biased or ignoring/blocking people just because I was told to. Even if it is the minority in such cases, I was allowed to meet wonderful people by just ignoring warnings and having my own experiences and I would not want to miss them in my life ๐Ÿ˜‰ . Humans are different. Some do go along and some do not but without having my own experience I at least try (it does not work always 100%) to be open for my own experiences even if I might get hurt again, just because the only thing I dare to judge is myself (if that makes any sense… I hope it does).

Sometimes it is worth it to just slough off the ropes and bands that tie you down, to get up after you maybe got hurt and get rid of the bad feelings, that your experiences might have caused. The possibility that you can have a different experience with a different person is there, it just has to be made.

I try to tell that to myself everyday and most of the time it works. How we all could have learned to walk when we were young, if we would not have stood up all the time after we fell and had bruises and open knees? I am ready to get up again and to take off the blindfold and the bonds of my old experiences to make new ones, better ones and some that I never will forget. I won’t be infallible – I am human being – but I will try – every day again ๐Ÿ™‚

Details

Outfit & Accessories:

Top: Wicca’s Wardrobe – “Vixen Bra 1 & 2” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Harness: [Cynful] – “Shamless Top & Bottom” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Pantie: Enfant Terrible – “Locked Heart Chastity Belt” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Gloves: .:Avanti:. – “Domina Gloves” (Maitreya Applier)

Knee Bracers: .:Avanti:. – “Jersey Knee Warmers” (Maitreya Applier)

Shoes: [MODA] – “Dakota Heels” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Gag: ::Axix:: – “Beloved Nocturnia Gag” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Bound Box

Hair & Makeup:

Hair & Blindfold: +Spellbound+ – “Babygirl” – NEW @ Bound Box

Body & Tattoos:

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Poses & Props:

Sari-Sari – “Puppet Skybox”

Model & Phototgrapher:

Wicca Merlin

 

Wicca’s Wardrobe @ The Black Fair 2017

It’s time for The Black Fair and as you would guess, EVERYTHING IS BLACK! We have a super sexy, super latex 100% original mesh creation we call Joan. It is made up of a alluring crop top, and curve hugging pencil skirt. We are offering Joan in in black of course, but with two variations of red included, and we also have our fatpack which of course has an impressive texture changing HUD so that you can have Joan in any color combination you like! Joan is made for Maitreya’s Lara, and Slink’s Physique and Hourglass.

But wait! THERE’S MORE! Our Joan gloves are BENTO! A definite must have!

Taxi: The Black Fair 2017

Wicca’s Wardrobe @ The Guardians – October 2017

This round of The Guardians we have our first ever mesh lingerie! And of course it is 100% original! Evelyn is made up of 5 rares and 25 commons… the RARE items are: the bra, panty, garter belt, corset, and stockings, that comes with a texture changing HUD for all the variety you could want. The commons are single colored bras, panties, garter belts, corsets and stockings that come with a small HUD to change the texture of the metals.

And only for the event we have the Gift of the Guardians, our Evelyn Heels with color changing HUD.

A perfect compliment to the entire set.

GOTG = Gift of the Guardians (On top of each 15th pull, only available during the event itself)

Evelyn is designed to fit only Maitreya’s Lara.

The Guardians Rules and Info: http://thegachaguardians.com/how-to-play/

Taxi to the event: The Guardians

Wicca’s Wardrobe is part of the next Bound Box!

Wicca’s Wardrobe is excited to announce we will be a part of BOUND, a subscription box for the kinky side of your Second Life.

Never heard of the BOUND box? It is a quarterly subscription box featuring 12 designers creating exclusive items geared towards the BDSM/Kinky community. (At this time it is only for the ladies.)

All you need to do to sign up is visit the store and click the BOUND kiosk (trust me, you can’t miss it). Reserve your box starting by the 12th of September for L$1500. It will be delivered to you by October 12th.

 

(If you miss the Bound Box pre-order, you may purchase the HUD directly for 24 hours after initial release for 2000L at Bound Box Headquarters, after which there will be a one month hiatus in order to preserve exclusivity. After the one month hiatus, the HUD will be available for purchase for 3500L at Bound Box Headquarters. After 6 months from initial release it will be retired permanently.)

For more information about BOUND, visit https://palegirlproductions.wordpress.com/subscription-box-bound/about/

Location: Wicca’s Wardrobe

Wicca’s Wardrobe – Dasyra @ ROMP August 2017

This round of ROMP we are a sponsor, so to celebrate we have Dasyra. Our latest 100% original mesh creation is made up of a top, a skirt, and bolero and little else. There will be nothing left to the imagination when you flaunt what the Lindens gave you. Since Dasyra comes in three separate parts and along with a massive texture changing HUD, you will have all kinds of options in styling the look that best suits you.

Dasyra is designed to fit Slink’s Hourglass and Physique as well as Maitreya’s Lara.

Limo to ROMP:ย  http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Pirates%20Cove/110/137/28

Wicca’s Wardrobe – Riona Gacha Set @ Gacha Garden August 2017

This round of the Gacha Garden we have one of our sexiest creations yet, Riona. This naughty number is comprised of a top, corset, panties, skirt, bracers and boots. There are 20 commons and 2 rares. All items come with a texture changing HUD for straps/rim and/or metals, but the rares come with an enhanced HUD offering even more textures and options to choose from.

Our Seed of Inspiration for Riona is a coordinating collar that comes with an enhanced texture changing HUD.

We have a OC SIX scripted version of the Riona collar available.

If you played our machine, won the collar and would like to exchange it to a scripted no trans but copy version, just send us a notecard ๐Ÿ™‚

Gacha Garden – How to play? What is a SoI (Seed of Inspiration)?
http://www.thegachagarden.com/?page_id=797

You don’t want to miss out on Riona! (Riona is made to fit only Maitreya’s Lara.)

Location: Gacha Garden

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Cat Lady

SECOND U Magazine // Special Edition July 2017 // Model & Photographer: Wicca Merlin

For the actual issue of the 2nd U Magazine I again was asked to make a few pictures. I always be super happy when Ruby messages me and asks as she usually gives me free reigns of what I am doing ๐Ÿ˜‰

This time it was a special edition – you can read the full issue HERE.

It was not about fashion, or locations or trends… it was about the people and it was great to be allowed to be part again ๐Ÿ™‚

I made 3 pictures but instead of posting all 3, I just picked the one that was the most personal to me, you can see all the others in the magazine.

Thank you Ruby for doing such an amazing job with all those awesome ideas for the magazine ๐Ÿ™‚

Details:

Outfit: Salt & Pepper – “Cat Lady” (Maitreya, Gacha)

Deco: E.V.E Studio & unKindness

Thoughtful…

You only see what your eyes want to see
How can life be what you want it to be
You’re frozen
When your heart’s not open
You’re so consumed with how much you get
You waste your time with hate and regret
You’re broken
When your heart’s not open

[Madonna]

Today, again I have some lingerie. Lingerie is always something difficult for me as I do not want something boring, nor I wanna over do it especially, if it is such a delicate and filigree lingerie like the “Iris” set from Salt & Pepper at the WCF7.

The set contains bra, panties and a HUD with 6 color options. Matching to that you can get the “Iris” collar which as well has a HUD for 6 satin and 6 metal colors.

The lingerie set is a wonderful mesh ensemble made of satin and lace. Salt always amazes me with her ideas for designs as well as with her detailed outfits and meshes, not even to mention her insane texturing skills. The lingerie is so body tight… on the first view you would think, it is a body applier, but it is really mesh work ON the body!

The tattoo is – how could it be different – from White Widow. It is no secret. that Julie Hastings is one of my favourite… if not my absolute favourite tattoo creator.

If you ever tried to make applier clothing or – in the past – layer clothing, you probably realized that making something detailed for the SL body is not easy. You have to fight seams, you have to fight blurry moments especially on body parts that allow more curves, as you never know who the shape of the users will be. If you look at Julie’s tattoos under this perspective, you only can imagine how much skills and time she puts in her creations.

The amazing shoes I as well found at the WCF7. Phedora made the awesome “Coax” boots with the huge HUD of 25 trendy colors. The knee-high boots have a wonderful laced front and around the legs they are held with straps and buckles.

I loved the interoperation of the several lace parts on the shoes, the lingerie and as well on the tattoo with the fishnet looking parts, that as well gave the imagination of lace.

Like I mentioned at the beginning most of the items are available at the Whore Couture Fair 7 (WCF7). The variety of designs on that event are just amazing. I am sure that there is something for everyone at that event and I will have for sure some more from there in the near future ๐Ÿ˜‰

The Whore Couture Fair 7 is really worth a visit as you have so many different styles of sexy, seductive and even provocative from some of the best designers in SL.The fair is open until March the 31st so you still have time to take a look ๐Ÿ˜‰

TAXI

Details

Lingerie: Salt & Pepper (S&P) – “Iris” @ WCF7 (Maitreya)

Collar: Salt & Pepper (S&P) – “Iris” @ WCF7

Shoes: Phedora – “Coax Boots” @ WCF7 (Maitreya)

Hair: DeLa – “Elsie”

Tattoo: [White~Widow] – “Music Box” (Maitreya Applier)

Makeup: Zibska – ” (LeLutka Applier)

Lipstick: je suis… – ” (LeLutka Applier)

Nailpolish: {ZOZ} – “Silver Arrow” (Maitreya Applier)

Basics

Head: LeLutka โ€“ โ€œSimone 2.3โ€

Body: Maitreya โ€“ โ€œLara V3.5โ€

Eyes: IKON โ€“ โ€œHope Eyesโ€

Shape: Selfmade

โ€œThe hardest thing was simply to speak.โ€

โ€œThe chains and the silence, which should have bound her deep within herself, which should have smothered her, strangled her, on the contrary freed her from herself.โ€

[Pauline Reage]

The Story of O is an erotic novel of the French author Anne Desclos written under her pen name Pauline Reage.

Published in 1954 it was a very hot discussed book, maybe that is why it did take Anne Desclos so long to discover herself as the original author. Desclos claims , that she wrote the whole story as a series of letter to her lover Jean Paulhan.

She shares dreams, imaginations and desires, which are nowadays are not anymore that ‘abstract’ than they seemed back in 1954 ๐Ÿ˜‰

Based on the novel, dresses got tailored, according to the description of certain dresses that Pauline Reage made in her novel. Over the time we have many different ones – 50 years are a long time to have several ideas for such dresses ๐Ÿ˜‰ all of them required an open font and back as well as a topless option.

One of them in Second Life would be the “Story of O” outfit by Salt & Pepper. The outfit contains the wonderful dress with a huge HUD to change the texture of the leather and satin of dress to six different colors and as well the typical collar and the cuffs for wrists and ankles (as well HUD driven). If you take a closer look at the collar and the cuffs you again can see the filigree details on the chains and as well the texture on the dress with the combination of leather and satin shows the amazing designing skills of Salt.

The dress is top less as described in the novel but to keep it PG I decided to wear a bra for the picture ๐Ÿ˜‰ The wonderful bra comes from Blacklace and is part of the “Niki” set in red leather & lace. To me it looked perfect to the “Story of O” dress ๐Ÿ˜‰

For the makeup I used one eyeshadow of a set I lately kinda use only, as it gives me the perfect look for colorful lipsticks. The “Noir Pack 06” from Zibska. I really do love either colorful lipstick OR eyeshadow. With the bright, shiny red lipstick from je suis, the light smokey eyes from Zibska looked just perfect.

Speaking of lipstick from je suis… Julia Merosi is back with amazing new lipsticks for Catwa and LeLutka! Her new sets really cover each color you can imagine and with each tone you get 5 different shades of the color you purchased and certainly if you are addicted to have always a matching lipstick you will get the fact pack with all of them :p

Roleplay is a huge part of Second Life, any kind of different communities are virtually living their dreams, desires and fantasies – Which one is yours?

Details

Dress (incl Collar & Cuffs): Salt & Pepper (S&P) – “Story of O” – NEWย  We <3 RP

Bra: Blacklace – “Niki” (Maitreya Applier)

Hair: DeLa – “Dorothy”

Makeup: Zibska – “Noir Pack 06”

Lipstick: je suis… – “lelutka lips no. 002 – shiny [reds]” (LeLutka Applier)

Nail Polish: Dark Passions – “Dominatrix – Silver”

Poses: Poseidon

Basics:

Head: LeLutka โ€“ โ€œSimone 2.3โ€

Body: Maitreya โ€“ โ€œLara V3.5โ€

Eyes: IKON – “Hope Eyes”

Shape: Selfmade

Set:

Chains: {RW} – “Hanging Chain Deco”

Rack: Back Bone – “Toy Rack”

Cage: [zerkalo] – “Imprisoned Steel – Slave Cage”

Pillows: Stockholm & Lima – “Pillow Pile (PG)”

Whip: 22769 ~ [bauwerk] – “Leather Whip”

Temptation in Black & Red

Today I have some amazing news from *ROMP* for you!

It was about time for a black & red styling I guess and with the new items from ROMP it was just perfect timing ๐Ÿ˜‰

To me this round of ROMP is a very exciting one as we are allowed to participate for the first time with our store as well. I will probably do a post of our design as well but for now I would like to showcase some of the super awesome items I found there.

What caught my eyes as soon as I saw the vendor picture, was the amazing “Carmen” coat made by [sys]. The knee long open coat is decorated with an amazing fur looking fabric. You have 2 different versions available in each pack for the fur part. It comes fitted for all popular mesh bodies.

The amazing, delicate lingerie I am wearing underneath, comes from chocolate atelier (::c.A::). Chocolate Atelier usually provides the lingerie as system body layers, tattoo layers as well as appliers for Slink, Maitreya and Omega. For this post I used the “Nadia” lingerie in black but you can purchase it as well in red or white.

For the stockings I chose one of my favourite brands… AviCandy. They are always very well made without any seams – except the wanted ones in the back – and just look so realistic with their wonderful filigree lace decoration at the upper thighs. AviCandy provide for their nylons usually 2 different versions – one more opaque and one sheer one.

For the shoes I used the “Parrasana” heels from Glamistry. They might not be brand new but still brand hot with their special heel :p.

Let’s take a closer look at the strong makeup I chose for today’s look. Normally I am a fan of either bold eyes OR lips and rarely use both but the look kinda called for a more dramatic looking makeup.

The stunning, dark smokey eyes were made by Zib Scaggs, owner and designer of Zibska. I am using the m aitreya applier of the “Selise” HUD. Zibska is definitely a must go for the new “Simone” bento head from LeLutka. Zibska offers a wide range of incredible makeup designs for that head, that just fits amazing. You will not only find a LeLutka applier HUD in the pack, there also is an Omega, Catwa or TMP one as well plus still all the system layer tattoos.

The great, deep and dark lipstick is one of the newest releases from je suis. Yes you heard right – Julia Merosi, owner and designer of je suis, is back! And she already made stunning new things including the “LeLutka Lips 006”, which she released at the actual round of the Chapter 4. The perfectly fit the “Simone” head and you can even play with the gloss and the blending to get the perfect result for your look.

For the set I mainly wanted to play with projectors and lights in different colors (thanks to Leah for teaching me some more about self made projectors!).

As a basic furniture I put down the new “Neo Victorian Sofa”, that you can get at ROMP as well made by 22769. It comes in different colors and as PG or adult version – for today’s post I just went with the black PG version, as I anyways wanted to play with other poses, even if the sofa has great inbuilt animations that you can play with via a touch menu. The curtains, that I used for the golden accents are as well made by 22769.

ROMP has some great goodies this round so it is definitely worth a visit ๐Ÿ˜‰

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Coat: [sys] – “Carmen” – NEW @ ROMP

Lingerie: ::c.A:: – “Nadia” (Maitreya mesh body applier)

Stockings: AviCandy – “Lace Back Seam” (Maitreya mesh body applier)

Shoes: Glamistry – “Parrasana”

Face: +XAnSA+ – “JianDi Face Straps” – NEW @ ROMP

Colar: AsteroidBox – “Three Strap Collar” – NEW @ ROMP

Rings: Formanails – “Rings Simple Maitreya”

Nailpolish: Nailed It! – “Diva Set” (Maitreya nails applier)

Hair: enVOGUE – “Milly”

Eyeshadow: Zibska – “Selise”

Lipstick: je suis – “LeLutka Lips No. 006 – [reds]” – NEW @ Chapter 4

Body Basics:

Head: LeLutka – “Head.Simone 2.1”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara V3.5”

Set:

Drapes: 22769 – “Long Black Drapes”

Curtain: LeeZu – “Greta Curtains / Owls” (no longer available) & 22769 – “Segmented Curtain Gold”

Couch: 22769 – “Neo Victorian Sofa” – NEW @ ROMP