Who are you behind the screen?

Are you a guy or a girl behind the screen?

That is a question, I heard so many times in my SL life. In the beginning – over 10 years ago – I had a different RL partner, who played a girl in SL and so he did not want me to voice or skype. He was afraid, that he would be ‘discovered’ as a guy, if ambiance noise or background phone calls were going on and that others would not RP or talk to him anymore if they would know. I respected his wish during our relationship and only typed. I never even thought about that being an issue for anyone, since I never requested myself being a female*lmao*, but when it happened the first time, I remember I really felt hurt somehow. I can not even say why, but it hit me right out of nothing when I got told “If you are not voicing you are a guy that tries to hide”

That was years ago and after I broke up with my partner, I did voice and prove more than once with it, that I am a real female.

But for about 2 years, it really kept getting more and more annoying and the more I was told if I don’t voice I must be a guy that I became stubborn as well and in the beginning I did not even wanna voice just because of all that. I did not want to let them dictate me and what I need to do. When I finally started to voice with some people that I always felt close and who never accused me to be a guy in RL It really was fun.

When I started modeling, I again stumbled over that fact. In some competitions they asked for voice checks, some designers where requesting voice verifications and at some modeling schools you had to prove, that you are a girl when you play a girl avatar. That really made me think… Why it would be so important, to know if a girl avatar really is a girl in RL? I mean we are not talking about relationships or cheating on other people who fell in love on wrong informations. There were some girls who told me in privacy that they would be guys and they would be afraid to say it, because they thought then they would not be allowed to model anymore as girls. And the ‘Why’ in my heads became bigger and bigger. What would make the difference on a SL model, designer or any other kind of roleplay if you don’t take it to RL, if that person is male or female or gay, lesbian or hetero? Does it matter for styling abilities? Does it matter for walking the runway?

Isn’t Second Life a place where you can be what you want? Isn’t Second Life a place where you can live your dreams? Isn’t Second Life a place where you can release a side of you that you can’t show in RL? Maybe there is a reason why a person does not voice even if they are the gender in RL, which they are playing in SL? Maybe someone cannot voice because they are not able to talk in RL, because they are deaf or mute?

The more I got into that, the more I hear things and read bad posts about people that were ‘discovered’ by others. Those people who did that always felt right about, that they revealed something ‘important’ and had to tell the whole world?!?! Who gave them the right to do that? Who gave them the right to hurt others with their stories? Who are they, that they think they need to be the Second Life police for that?

Again I am not talking about SL relationships that were meant to go RL and one got badly tricked, but I always said I do not care about what gender people are behind the screen as long as no one gets hurt. I know a few super, mega top models in SL that do a great job and be admired by many people and they are not the gender, which they are playing in SL. Who cares? They do an amazing job, otherwise they would not have made it so far. It is just sad, that they had to ask friends to do their ‘voice verifications’ for them, to be allowed to do what they like and enjoy.

I hope one day – in a world where transgenders in real life more and more get accepted and as well get popular and famous – people in Second Life can be as tolerant as they became RL.

I wish – in a world where creativity is a gift and all are aiming to be more creative – that all who only stand up to think about how they can hurt, slander and defame other people get a life and find joy and satisfaction in being productive instead of being constructive.

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
[Bernard M. Baruch]

Outfit & Accessories

Lingerie: Enfant Terrible – “Bombshell” (Maitreya)

Stockings: BigBeautifulDoll – “Stockings Lady Nude Sheer” (Maitreya Applier)

Shoes: Bliensen + MaiTai – “It’s aways Teatime” (Maitreya) – NEW @ Enchantment

Wings: Enfant Terrible – “Unisex Wings Heartshape”

Gloves: CODEX – “Aranel” (Bento, Maitreya)

Blindfold & Collar: Bliensen + MaiTai – “La Perla” – NEW @ ROMP

Ring & Armlets: .alme. – “Maple Leaves Ring” (armlets edited)

Hair & Makeup

Hair: Mithral – “Agave”

Body & Tattoo

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Face: Izzie’s – “Pores & Blemishes” (LeLutka Applier)

Poses & Props

Bed & Poses: Dictatorshop – “Contempo Bed” (menu driven) – NEW @ ROMP

Background: DRD – “Shadow Mansion – Light” (Bedroom, Shadow Box Bonus)

Model & Photographer

Wicca Merlin

The Runway Perfect Hunt #4 – Part 9

TRPH #4 - 22769+Dulce Secrets fulla

The Runway Perfect Hunt goes in it’s 4th round :) . Morgane Batista again made it, to get amazing designers to participate in one of the most famous hunts on the grid. Even if the title says “The hunt with models in mind” does not mean this hunt is limited to models only. All the amazing and versatile designs are amazing additions to everybody’s wardrobe, even the males will find some amazing hunt prizes in some locations ;) This year the hunt is not a total freebie hunt, each hunt item costs $5 Linden. With a total of 50 shops you reach a maximum of $250 Linden, what is a great amount for so many amazing quality designs!

After being absent because of RL, I would like to show some more of the wonderful Runway Perfect Hunt items before the hunt is over.

The amazing “Brocade” dress, is the contribution of 22769 to the 4th edition of the TRPH. A wonderful once piece mesh dress in red and black. The skirt is made plain black what makes the brocade texture of the red jacket even more shine. The wonderful makeup comes from Dulce Secrets and is as well one of the awesome hunt items. Dulce Secrets provides not only the makeup, as well they have a wonderful skin in different versions in their TRPH #4 box.

The super cool ankle boots I found at the Gothic Fair 2013. Blinesen + MaiTai made the wonderful “Diavola” ankle boots with that unusual shape. The basic black victorian looking base with the amazing buckle, was combined with the red parts that look like little flames round your ankles.

The Cool and lightly messy looking “Carla” hair from EMO-tions was just perfect for the look and with the “Lost” necklace, as well from EMO-tions, I found the perfect matching jewelry as well 🙂

Now I was looking at myself and still I missed something… a hat, yes a hat would be awesome. I searched through all my inventory but I did not have one single red hat that would match to the outfit. All of a sudden I remembered about one of my oldest friends… she was designing hats! I stormed into Xenobia Foxclaw’s IM like a hurricane and started crying about me looking for a deep/blood red hat with maybe something black on it. Xen knows me for quite some time now and she knows my weird moments as well, so she just laughed and said I should wait a few minutes she would look through her creations. A few seconds later 3 different mesh hats made their way into my inventory and the “Dewey” hat in red suede was the perfect addition to the styling. Thanks so much Xen for again saving my day 😉

The Runway Perfect Hunt goes in it’s last days so if you not yt grabbed all the fantastic items you really should hurry and make your way to the participating shops 😉

TRPH #4 - 22769+Dulce Secrets face

Details

Dress: 227679 – “Brocade Dress” – NEW (mesh, TRPH #4)

Makeup: Dolce Secrets – “Something Wild” – NEW (TRPH #4)

Lipstick: Silken Moon – “Wicca Lips Tarbaby”

Shoes: Bliensen + MaiTai – “Diavola” – NEW (Gothic Fair 2013)

Hair: EMO-tions – “Carla”

Hat: Xen’s Hats – “Dewey”

Necklace: EMO-tions – “Lost” – NEW (mesh)

Thights: *KL* – “Pantyhose Widenet”

Bag: !Spiders* – “Pouch Handbag”

Poses: PosESioN

Model & Photographer: Wicca Merlin

The 3rd Crazy Hair Hunt!!!

ONCE UPON A TIME, not so long ago, there was a woman with a dream.

FOREVER FOND OF THE ODD, colorful, interesting and unusual, she wondered why people looked so sad. Was it their perfectly nice and respectable – but muted hairs? Had nice – or even worse – boring hair sucked the spirit out of them?

THEN LIKE A BLAST, it came to her!
It wasn’t that they all had to be as one, it was that they had all forgotten how to throw caution to the wind. To be wild and free, to dance to their own tune like no one was watching, sing their own song, be a shepherd and not a sheep. To know they can be anything and not settling for less!
Perhaps she could help them? Find others who could assist her in showing those restrained by the real world how to let out their inner Vivianne Westwood couture model, outrageous drag queen, ripped and torn punk rocker or squeaky and shiny cybernun? Perhaps they secretly wanted to be a cat/spider/demon or toaster?
To not be afraid of new ideas and enjoy the madness of creation in all its weird and wonderful forms!

SO SHE AWOKE and planned to seek out like minds to assist her.

ACCOMPANIED by a marvellous bunch of trusty friends, she set about finding those capable of making brilliantly wild and crazy hair. Only specific makers were asked, because the team had to be sure they were worthy of the challenge ahead.
They all laughed excitedly and said “Let’s do it”!

Our dream becomes reality……….. yet again!

We bring you THE 3rd CRAZY HAIR HUNT !
Our theme this year is Flora and Fauna, we will create animalistic or planty hair (of DOOM )

The date is 31th March to April 30th………..

CONFIRMED HAIR MAKERS SO FAR:——–

The U-neek, ZsaZsa’s House Of Beauty, VAUGHAN’S :: house of curiosities, Curious Kitties, Vita’s Boudoir, .{Rue}. , La Boheme,  :::: IrEn:::: , Vanity Hair, Tekeli-li, Concrete Flowers,  [M&K]  , Bliensen + MaiTai  ,  Battle Angel , The Stringer Mausoleum, Chichickie!, Nushru, Discord Designs, Bizarre Creations,Grim Bros, Barerose,  Emo-tions, Morgane Bataista poses, {Bingo} , [hate this] , .::.IM CaPPeD.::., Calico Ingmann Creations , C&D Designs ,  Nightshade Designs , .::CENSORED::. , The Strand, W.Winx, :DTA:: DROPTHEANCHOR,  Ein peixe,  Barlow Fashion, Entropy Designs , Gumi’s Flower Shop, Alli&Ali Designs,  Skinthesis, ~ HeLtEr SkElTeR ~ ,  Evie’s Closet , Sentou Yousei (battle fairy) , Iron Tiger , **Malizz Yiyuan creation** , Yasyn’s Odds and Ends,  ((RIPE)) , NebuchadNezzar, Hairoin, L+N Signature Designs Store,  frou frou, Le Cactus,  !SyDS! , Rosy mood, Zibska , MSM Designs, Weather! or not? , Facepalm Designs , T&S GLaM, ^.^Ayashi^.^, Raven’s Heart,  Amulet,  Orage Creations, red MINT, *By Snow*

Thats ALOT of FABULOUSNESS over 60 shops!

There IS a group for the hunt, for hunters to chat and have fun,which will open to hunters on 31st March the day of the hunt
secondlife:///app/group/9814f120-23f2-a522-a14a-8cf47197fb4b/about

Store Surls and hints:

*CHH3* 1 The U-neek

Hint: Where the leaves should be! ( 3 gifts here)

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Junlong/42/26/51

*CHH3* 2=^.^= Curious Kitties

Hint: New things are very nice

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Curious%20Kitties/202/128/21

*CHH3* 3 VANITY HAIR

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Waterton%20Way/166/160/1027

*CHH3* 4 Tekeli-li!

Hint: Seek the arrow and ye shall find!

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Tekelili/146/126/25

*CHH3* 5 —-+Bizarre Hair +—–

Hint: Play with me!

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Junlong/172/38/51

*CHH3* 6 Bare Rose

Hint: Closer than you think!

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Black%20Cat/66/115/25


*CHH3* 7 ZsaZsa’s House of Beauty

Hint: The starter kit is the best place to start looking.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Tableau/134/97/23

*CHH3* 8 Vita’s Boudoir

Hint: Hair Hair everywhere!

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Boudoir/125/150/21

*CHH3* 9 CONCRETE FLOWERS

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Pickle/198/129/33

*CHH3* 10 [M&K]

Hint: If it’s too dark in here you might need this.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Junlong/23/75/51

*CHH3* 11ChiChickie!

Hint: Need a hint? Ring the bell for customer service.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Webwinder/238/57/82

*CHH3* 12 Grim. Bros

Hint: Behind the rules sign, hunter, lies a treasure. So seek for that my dear, and you’ll find pleasure!(2 gifts here)

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Clematis%20Island/116/48/22

*CHH3* 13 “The Stringer Mausoleum”

Hint: I wave in the sea, but no water is to be seen, so I stand still.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Aurora%20Vale/74/169/428

*CHH3* 14 Nushru

Hint: Time to Dress up!

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Lucid/164/185/26

*CHH3* 15 Discord Designs

Hint: 1. Quick! Follow that Ninja!

Hint: 2. I wish to register a complaint…

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Moonsong/171/212/25

*CHH3* 16 .:EMO-tions:.

Hint: Am I new?

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Hells%20End/128/126/22

*CHH3* 17 Bliensen + MaiTai

Hint: Eagle of flowers! I see thee stand,

 And on the sun’s noon-glory gaze:

 With eye like his thy lids expand,

 And fringe their disk with golden rays;

 Though fix’d on earth, in darkness rooted there,

 Light is thine element, thy dwelling air,

 Thy prospect heaven.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Essex/37/117/23

*CHH3* 18 .{Rue}.

Hint: Round and Round the hunt you go

wheRe you’ll end up, you’Re not suRe you’ll know

but in my safe haRboR you’Re welcome to stay

just look up, and left, and have a gReat day!

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Twomoons%20Island/169/212/22

*CHH3* 19 [hate this]

Hint: If you’re hurt, look in this corner to heal you.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Midgard/165/15/1338

*CHH3* 20 Evie’s Closet

Hint: Not far away ……..

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Oubliette/171/170/31

*CHH3* 21 Barlow Fashion Main Store

Hint: So tired of hunting? Make yourself comfortable, let rest your ass and contemplate the greatness of the universe…

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Ile%20Perdue/48/126/3001

*CHH3* 22 Ein peixe

Hint: 1.Waterside.

Hint: 2.Cane.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Fermat/24/31/59

*CHH3* 23 Gumi’s Flower Shop

Hint: Turn to the left.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Epirrita/65/223/130

*CHH3* 24 A&A Hair

Hint: I feel MANIA!

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Wonderland%20Beach/128/128/23

*CHH3* 25 Skinthesis

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Oubliette/240/111/36

*CHH3* 26 VAUGHAN’S :: house of curiosities

Hint: Mrs. Berty Udderbottom, the cow, says “MOO!”

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Extrem%20Island/194/192/26

*CHH3* 27 [IrEn] Mainstore

 Hint: On the table.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Blackmoore/99/188/35

*CHH3* 28 La Boheme & Nevermore

Hint: Oscar Wilde said, “We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars…”

http://slurl.com/secondlife/The%20Wash/221/76/24

*CHH3* 29 Hairoin

Hint: If you feel the urge to go for a swim, find a mermaid for a companion.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/The%20Wash/221/76/24

*CHH3* 30 NebuchadNezzar

(haven’t found it)

http://slurl.com/secondlife/ALOWW/225/61/1103

*CHH3* 31 ** Malizz Yiyuan creation**

Hint: Make beautiful in the mirror towards the hair on the 1st floor!

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Polentina/94/31/389

*CHH3* 32 – [CIRCA] / C&D Designs

Hint: “Turn down the lights and let’s get busy!”

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Aurora%20Vale/170/91/38

*CHH3* 33/~{frou-frou}~

Hint: ceiling art is the new thing.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/The%20Deck/75/189/22

*CHH3* #34 ((RIPE)) Spring Lilly Hair

Hint: Can you see the  Lily Pad?

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Lucid/199/98/23

*CHH3* 35 !DSyDS!

Hint: Relax , i am comfy!

http://slurl.com/secondlife/petit%20pas/55/120/24

*CHH3* 36 Sentou Yousei 

Hint: oh, I have a Rock stuck on my shoe..

http://slurl.com/secondlife/The%20Wash/45/129/23

*CHH3* 37/W.Winx

Hint: naughty naughty, forever alone in the corner

http://slurl.com/secondlife/The%20Deck/71/225/22

*CHH3* 38/Yasyn’s Odds and Ends

http://slurl.com/secondlife/WatchTower/91/251/1201

*CHH3*  #39    Iron Tiger Jewelry

Hints: Raptors gave no meat passes,

no matter how swift the feet flew.

Plant eaters munched on sweet grasses,

like tasty proto bamboo:)

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Rag%20Dollz%20Island/198/77/23

*CHH3* # 40 .::CENSORED::.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Utopia%20Portugal%20XXII/43/184/3701

*CHH3* 41 / Calico Ingmann Creations

Hint: Its about time.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Calico%20Kitty/164/163/34

*CHH3* 42 Battle Angel

(haven’t found it)

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Ruby/187/149/26

*CHH3* 43 {Bingo}

Hint: On the head!

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Namba/187/192/22

*CHH3* 44 ::DROPTHEANCHOR::

(Did not even find the shop…)

*CHH3* 45 +tribe+

(haven’t found it)

Hint: Go home.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Leodegrance/40/211/87

*CHH3* 46 IM CaPPeD

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Anarchy/101/209/501

*CHH3* 47 Morgane Batista Poses

Hint: Where the top models are, you will find.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Wunderville/151/27/21

*CHH3* 48 ~ HeLtEr SkElTeR ~

Hint: a good start in the day with a breakfast!

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Oculea/33/70/31

*CHH3* 49/The Strand

Hint: They aren’t socks.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/The%20Deck/54/155/22

*CHH3* 50 Nightshade Designs

(haven’t found it)

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Witching%20Hour/74/124/34

*CHH3* 51 Entropy Designs

Hint: Warning Blowdryer should not be submerged underwater! May cause DEATH by electrocution.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Riddings/166/42/130

*CHH3* 52 L+N Signature Designs

Hint: “Time is precious”.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Lion%20Heart/21/246/24

*CHH3* 53/ Le Cactus (Maya Paris)

Hint: I like bananas…because they have no bones.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/SBCC/158/192/2958

*CHH3* 54 Alpha & Omega Point

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Alpha%20Point/3/128/638

*CHH3* 55/Zibska

Hint: Bird is the Word.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/V%20Gen/159/251/2701

*CHH3* 56 MSM DESIGNS

Hint: Please don’t snoop in my desk.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Degas/199/79/24

*CHH3* 57 Weather! or not?

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Hobbs%20End/10/198/38

*CHH3* 58/Facepalm Designs

Hint: Gotta try that SHROOM dude.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Darnassus/224/162/25

*CHH3* 59 / Rosy mood

Hint: Just take the first step.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Bay%20City%20-%20Moloch/31/63/25

CHH # 60 Raven’s Heart

Hint: Why is the willow always weeping?

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Talisman/198/34/22

*CHH3* 61. ^.^Ayashi^.^

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Ubatuba/94/144/1700

*CHH3* 62 Amulet

Hint: Sit in front of the fireplace and toast marshies but keep them out of your hair!

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Boobero/218/224/21

*CHH3* 63 ~*By Snow*~

Hint: “Look for the cat, he knows where it’s at!”

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Lionheart%20Nuka/82/245/28

*CHH3* 64 /T&S GLaMouR DeSiGnS

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Calm%20Beach/95/149/2501

*CHH3* 65/Orage Creations

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Orage%20Creations/249/128/25

*CHH3* 66/( r e d ) M i n t

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Magic%20Isle/116/128/31

Soon I will have some pics about what I found 🙂
Happy Hunting!!!