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True Colors

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TUNES

But I see your true colors
Shining through
I see your true colors
And that’s why I love you
So don’t be afraid to let them show
Your true colors
True colors are beautiful
Like a rainbow

[- Cyndi Lauper -]

Finally RL gives me enough room to write a post I wanted to do for weeks now. It will be a premiere, because it will be the first post without any credits, but the topic  as well as the person are value a lot to me and so I wanted to do that without any fashion details.

This picture is a very special picture to me as it is the first picture of Vivien and me, done by her! I wanted a picture done by her for quite some time as I adore her picture and pose skills, but let me start like around a year back I guess it was, when I spotted her work the first time on Flickr…

When I saw her art the first time I immediately loved it and I remember how much I was pondering, if we even should contact her, as I thought she most likely must have been overwhelmed with sponsors already. But Silly contacted her never the less and when I heard that Vivien would be interested I thought I am dreaming. When I heard that she doesn’t even have that much sponsors yet I was more than surprised… how that was possible with the amazing pictures and showcases she did?!?

I was so happy when she agreed to be added to our blogger team. What I not yet did know how fast and conscientious she is with her blogging. She is so fast and creative… I am always amazed how she can have 2 or more pictures per day in that high quality and with so many different ideas. Certainly we started talking some when and figured out that we both are Germans. That made communication even easier and the more we typed and talked the more we found out that we have many commonalities about blogging and as well about general thoughts and views.

Then there was a point when Silly wanted to step back a bit from her blogger manager duties and asked if I would know someone who would like to take over… in the moment she asked It felt like loosing a sister and I had no clue who could take over. Silly was with us since the very beginning and when she said that I could not even think about someone who could take over. But Silly calmed me down saying she would not be gone as a friend anyway and as well not as a senior blogger manager either. She offered to help with the transition and still be there for the ones who do not speak German or English or if she is needed. That set my head free, to think about, who could potentially be her successor. As soon as I could think straight, it felt so natural to ask Vivien. We shared our visions about blogging, bloggers and how to treat sponsors and they were a lot alike.

When I asked her she told me that she would have no experiences, but she loves challenges and she would like to try it… Said and done! So she took over a few month ago and she does a hell of a job. More than I ever would have expected especially since she said she never did that before. Sometimes I even get scared how fast she is so that I really have to tr hard to catch up if I don’t want to miss one of  the wonderful pictures of your amazing team! She asks me stuff I didn’t even yet realize and it feels really awesome, how she takes care of the whole machine 😉

How did Beu mention today when I told her how happy I am with Vivien.. “Better chain her to the pipes at the basement” – I am not sure if I want her at the basement… but if she enjoys chains.. who knows *grins*

That brought us even more together than before and Vivien feels like a sister in crime to me. When I finally dared to ask her, about a picture giving her full reigns about what she would like to do. she made that incredible wonderful picture above. It already was a while ago and I really felt bad to not yet being able to post it as I didn’t want her to think I do not like it – I really love it and it does mean a lot to me that she took her time and patience to create that wonderful piece of art. But I didn’t just want to rush it through!

Since I posted about disappointment a few days ago and that we never should trust people at all anymore – Vivien is one of the examples why we should trust people even if we do not know them for along time. If I would have no trusted her, wee would have never had the awesome times we shared and I never would have been able to know her as close as she feels to me now.

That as well brought me to the idea to have a little series about those, who became family to me over the time. To show them how much I do appreciate them and how much they mean to me 🙂

Thank you Vivien for your friendship, your effort, your work and your creativity – Thank you for being an important part of my life and I hope we will make it to meet up RL for a coffee soon!

♥

Angel of Death

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The Angel of Death
Will come from the sky
And claim up your soul
When the time comes to die
When the Angel of Death
Comes down after you
Can you smile and say
That you have been true

[- Hank Williams -]

I had a very rough few days, thinking about friendship and about the fact that you think you know people and then you get badly disappointed to find out… you were completely wrong by thinking you knew someone.

It is not the first time that I had to find out about the true colors of someone, who called me “friend” for a longer time. Every time when that happened, I told myself to not trust people anymore – especially not in a virtual environment, where it is even more easy to trick people about your identity and character.

For what ever reason, I go against my own guts again and again, when I meet new people. I always try to force myself to not trust them right away or maybe do not trust them at all even. But you know how that goes, if you are an emotional and true person, there will be a point after some time, where you feel something for someone and just can’t hold the protective wall, which you built around you, up any longer and again you fall for something you call friendship after a while. In good times, all will go fine and you think you got to know someone, even if he or she lives all across the world on the other half of the globe. And many times it really is like that, but you again and again will face the fact, that there is rotten tomatoes between all the good red ones. Usually they are well hidden and so it takes a while until they are seeing the sunlight. If they do it mostly hurts. In the past even more than today, as with getting older you experience that more often certainly, even if you never will get used to it.

If I think about closely, the situations where it turned out good, feel even stronger. I don’t want miss the friendship to a hand full of people I met in Second Life over the years – some of them I even call family by now and they most likely or better hopefully never would turn 180° on me. What if I would have gone with my “no trust” policy strictly? I never would have met those I truly care for and think about, even if I am not in Second Life. I would have missed those who I can trust and who trust me and all the wonderful times we shared together. So I guess I will be hurt again in the future, as I am not willing to give up on trusting people in general… I do not want to miss out on those, which possibly could become amazing wonderful friends over the time. Some probably would call me stupid for that, I would call it human I guess 😉

Clothing

Collar: [CX] – “Hell’s Harbinger (Black Out+Silver)” (Maitreya)

Top: [CX] – “Chimera’s Delight Top – Red” (Maitreya, Gacha, Common) – NEW @ Epiphany // April 2021

Panty: [CX] – “Chimera’s Delight Undie – Red” (Maitreya, Gacha, Common) – NEW @ Epiphany // April 2021

Skirt: [CX] – “Chimera’s Delight Skirt – Red” (Maitreya, Gacha, Common) – NEW @ Epiphany // April 2021

Garters: [CX] – “Chimera’s Delight Garters – Black” (Maitreya, Gacha, Common) – NEW @ Epiphany // April 2021

Ribbons, Pearls & Roses: ERSCH – “Monie Straps” (Maitreya) – NEW @ The Warehouse Sale // April 2021

Boots: AsteroidBox – “Canopus Boots” (Maitreya)

Accessories

Horns: .:E.A.Studio:. – “Magnus Horns”

Piercing: Badwolf – “Murdured by Love – Chain” – NEW @ The Warehouse Sale // April 2021

Pasties: duckie – “Tape Black” (Maitreya)

Cuffs: [ abrasive ] – “Discipline Vinyl Cuffs”

Nails & Rings: .:E.A.Studio:. – “Infernal Claws” (Maitreya, Bento)

Wings: {PSYCHO:Byts} – “Popobawa Wings 3 Female – Charred” (Bento)

Hair & Makeup

Hair: Truth – “Forever”

Face Art:  Nefekalum Tattoos – “Hunger” (EvoX BoM, Materials enabled)

Head, Body & Tattoo

Head: LeLUTKA – “EvoX Avalon 3.0”

Ears: LeLUTKA – “/ EARS / Avalon ELF (add) 3.0” (part of the Avalon 3.0 head)

Ear Piercings: .:E.A.Studio:. – “I<3 Techno Piercing Earrings LEL EVOX Elf linked” – NEW @ Kinky // April 2021

Tongue (incl. mouth pose): {PSYCHO:Byts} – “Grayas Tongue”

Tattoo: .:Vegas:. – “Tattoo ( Dark ) Providence” (BoM) – New @ Shiny Shabby // April 2021

Piercing: [CX] x Ichigo – “Yoni’s Passion” (Maitreya)

Poses, Props & Tools

Backdrop: VARONIS x [CX] – “Post Mortem Backdrop” – NEW @ ACCESS // April 2021

Poses: Foxcity

Model, Stylist & Photographer

Wicca Merlin

True Friendship

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“And now to something completely different!”

In RL my English teacher – back when I was at school – used to say that if he was changing his topic, and after a roll of post apocalyptic posts (one is still missing), I wanted to do something different and finally my mind was able to do something else *giggles*

I am always fascinated from white pictures and rarely – if I try one – , they come out as I want them too.

But this time it did! I wanted to do a combination of power and fragile moments in a very soft environment.

All I added for the set were the “Waving Bioluminescent Fungus” in white and the “Rapunzel in Evie White Tower” in front of a white background. The “Rapunzel in Evie White Tower” reminded me of the thought of your inner voice, that talks to you if you have decisions to make or that you ask when you are down and do not know who to ask. It looked great in the background for the idea of the picture.

Do you know that moment, where people want you to be strong and you feel right the opposite but cannot show that, because you have a task to end or you have to be there for someone?

It is like an inner fight with yourself, trying to not let the fragile side win. Sometimes you need to be strong, no matter what. Even if I have been told several times to not hide my feelings – if you have a true friendship, sometimes your own feelings have to be pushed behind to be there for your friend. Thank god it does not happen too often that those 2 ‘souls’ come up to the same time. Would you not expect the same from a true friend – to be there for you when you need him or her most? and even if I am always afraid to bother someone with my problems and moods. But IF I do, I really to expect close and true friends to be there for me. And saying that I would even get up in the middle of the night and drive 500 and more kilometers to help , when it would be needed and possible.

True friendship is rare and even more rare in an online environment, but it is there. Many times you might be disappointed from people who you thought you know but if you stop trusting… you never will find those who are true and honest. You would cut yourself off to meet people who could be potential true and honest friends. I do not know if that makes sense – bear with the German – but I hope you know what I am trying to say.

In the past 10 years in SecondLife, I met many people. Some I still talk to, some quit playing and some just vanished. It was a rollercoaster journey in terms of meeting people. A few I let come close to me and they ripped out my heart and left me in pain for weeks. sometimes I even thought I will quit playing Second Life. But then there are some that I met, which caught me, gave me the feeling of being close to them and those I would not want to miss again. It might only be a handful people who really do know me – know more behind Wicca’s pixel – but those I highly value and I could not think about a life without them anymore. Even if we never met, we shared tons of hours on skype or inworld, even further on mobile communication tools and they became part of not only my Second Life but my real one as well.

Friendships are different – Some are super close and with some you share moments and experiences but you do not talk to them on an everyday base. That does not have to be bad though, they are still friends I do care for and in the moment we meet we have the biggest fun ever 🙂

I never would wanna change the past, as it did make me to what I am now – SL and RL. Even the pain made me learn something –  I never stopped to trust people or give people a chance to know me and become new, true friends.

Sometimes it is hard, but if you go out to find new true and real friends maybe do not give them the burden or the doubt out of your past experiences. They are not responsible for that, nor they know.

I hope I did make sense with what I was trying to say – if not… maybe holler at me inworld and you can help me doing it better 😉

Details

Clothing & Accessories:

Outfit: Plastix – “Solaris” (Maitreya)

Shoes: Essenz – “Calgary” (Maitreya)

Shoulder Piece, Necklace & Brows: Zibska – “Verad” (Gacha)

Makeup & Hair:

Makeup: Zibska – “Verad Eye Makeup” (LeLutka Applier)

Lipstick: Zibska – “Adia” (LeLutka Applier)

Hair: enVogue – “Carley”

Head, Body & Tattoos:

Head: LeLutka – “Simone 3.0”

Body: Maitreya – “Lara 4.1”

Poses & Props:

Poses: Poseidon

Props: E.V.E Studio – “Waving Bioluminescent Fungus” & “Rapunzel in Evie White Tower”

Model & Photographer: Wicca Merlin

 

Real Friendship

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blog version

Tempest & Wicca wearing Blacklace – “Passione – Leo Print & Lace Bra Set”

Today I have something very special…

Tempest Rosca, an incredible photographer, an amazing model and what counts even more for me… one of the ‘oldest’ and best friends I ever met in SL.

Tempest and me go way back and share quite a long past. We met in the early days of our modeling back on 2008/2009. That makes about 7 years… holy… time goes by!

The more I was happy when she IMed me and said “Wic.. do not blog the next Blacklace you get, let’s do it together!” God how iI could even think other than yes, when I thought about Tempe’s amazing pictures – I would get an original Tempest Rosca shoot!

Since I know how important a vision is for a photographer, I asked her if she had a special styling in mind. She just said “Hold on I send you a snap in a few but think lioness, princess, queen…” That sounded about Tempe… we get lingerie and she is talking about lions *giggles* I just love her. She has her own way of craziness and it seems to get well along with mine :p

When we met, while she was arranging the poses she had in mind we again had some great time for talking. Do you know that feeling.. you have friends, that you do not see or talk to every day, but when you met them it feels like it would be like that? That Tempe and me share.. we both have our own Second Life, but it crosses here and there and the it feels again so close and familiar, just amazing. We talked about old times, changes, new times and it felt so good to just talk away without any fears to say something wrong or something that he other would take wrong. Tempe and me never ever had that issue, we can talk about everything even about things we dislike or disagree and it never ever hit our friendship. That is very rare for me and with that it has one of the highest value. Exactly that to me is real friendship. We do not need kissy kissy everyday and as well we can talk clear and straight, without taking it wrong from each other – that can be so freeing and relaxing… I have no clue how long we talked until she found the right poses, angles and setting but I enjoyed every single second of it.

When I saw the picture I was speechless… it is incredible and perfect and again I know why I admire Tempe’s skills for pictures.

Thank you so much for a wonderful evening and an incredible picture Tempe – and yes.. next time it will be my turn and I am looking forward to it!!!